Stop Waiting Start Living!

Stop Waiting Start Living


Are you a notorious “waiter”?

Are you wasting precious moments of your life just waiting around?

Stop Waiting Start Living!

Some people wait so long for their next promotion, a meaningful relationship, success, for money, they spend their whole life waiting so much so that they never actually even start living!

Today for the first installation of a new series called “Self Improvement Sundays”, I want to talk about and help you to identify some self -defeating tendencies that you might have and how to get rid of them.

This waiting around to start actually living is common problem I see with a lot of my girlfriends who are “waiting” to be happy until they find the right guy.

It drives me nuts because I have been there myself and I was stuck in that thought pattern for too long thinking I couldn’t be truly happy until I had somebody that loved me back.

I was waiting to be happy, truly, deeply happy until I found the right guy… WTF?

It’s dumb and serves no purpose other than stopping you from being utterly happy in this present moment.

The whole thing is, after you go through some tough things personally, or lose somebody you love, you almost get smacked in the face by this huge realization that life does indeed have a time limit.

Almost two years ago now one of my best friends died in an accident and he was honestly one of the most charismatic, intelligent, kind, and just purely wonderful human beings I ever had the pleasure of knowing.

He quite frankly took life by the balls every single day, he was so driven and so motivated and lived in the here and now.

So many people live a long life never really living it to the fullest, but my friend did in his short time on this planet.

He had goals and dreams which he went after every damn day, he questioned everything because he was so deeply curious about the world, and he never took no for an answer.

People like that are rare and he motivates me everyday, somehow I am still lucky enough to be here. I get the opportunity to wake in the morning, healthy, and take life by the balls and pursue my dreams.

You can too and I’ll show you how


Why You Have to Stop Waiting Start Living!


I guess what I am getting at is that when you lose somebody, especially somebody who you knew lived life to the fullest every day, it makes you ask yourself “what the hell am I waiting for, and what more excuses can I make about why I am not yet happy?”

There is a time limit in your life, to get things accomplished, you never know when your life might be taken away so why do anything other than exactly what you want to be doing in this present moment?

Why are you not chasing your dreams?

Stop Waiting Start Living

You only get one life so live every damn day to it’s fullest.

Do you want to be in the best shape of your life? Then write out a meal plan, meal prep on a Sunday and schedule your workouts for the week. Set yourself up to be successful so you have no excuses

You want to travel the world but say you can’t afford it? Find a side hustle and get to it! If you want to know more about a side hustle I love this article the amazing Michael Bosstick wrote about why you need a side hustle!

Basically find a side gig. Drive for Uber of Lyft and make extra cash, sign up to proofread papers for non- English speakers on websites like Babysit, or write an e-book and market the hell out of it.


There is always a way!

If you want a loving and fulfilling relationship right now and are waiting around for a guy to complete you, learn how to feel complete on your own.

Know what you bring to the table and don’t be afraid to eat alone if you don’t meet somebody that you don’t love spending time with. Be happy first on your own before your search for a partner!

This stop waiting start living philosophy can be applied to so many different scenarios in life. I made excuses about why I couldn’t eat healthy and work out, and then I got sick and had that ability to exercise taken away from me.

Stop Waiting Start Living

It was then that I realized how much I hated myself for taking the ability to work out for granted when I was health. The minute I got better I approached working out and eating healthy as a privilege.

Some people in this world, so many are starving, not knowing where their next meal is coming from and there I was bitching about eating a turkey burger and skipping dessert.

Basically I was a privileged whiny little biatch and that had to change.

So stop listening to the voice in your head telling you that you aren’t good enough.

The victim like story that have written for ourselves and the face that we constantly replay that same story in our head and use it as an excuse gets in the way of us living the best possible life we can.

The only thing stopping you from living the life you have always imagined is the belief inside of you that and the voice that say “you aren’t enough”. When in reality you are more than enough and more capable than you ever could believe.

Self-doubt is the true killer of hopes and dreams!

We can’t let our confidence our lack thereof rule our minds and control our decisions because ultimately we miss out on some of the most amazing things in life!

The worst feeling in the world is the feeling of regret and knowing that you could have had the life you were always capable of living if only you had the courage to have tried and put yourself out there.

If you don’t have that awesome level of confidence right now simply fake it until you make it and ultimately you will get there in time with enough practice.

Stop taking what you can do for granted every day and start living. Stop making excuses and get out and Crush It!

Live the life you have always imagined, write out your life vision like I talked about here and get out there and live the life you have always wanted.

Stop taking what you can do for granted every day and start living. Stop making excuses and get out and Crush It!

Live the life you have always imagined, write out your life vision like I talked about here and get out there and live the life you have always wanted.

Tomorrow is never guaranteed so stop doing stuff you hate!


Stop Waiting Start Living People!


If you want to read some inspirational material to get you started on your kick ass life journey, some books that have really lit a fire under my ass to get out there and follow my dreams I highly recommend The Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes.

Yes that Shonda Rhimes. Creator of all of my favorite TV shows from Grey’s Anatomy, to How to Get Away With Murder, to Scandal, and now The Catch!

She is a kick ass and take names type of woman after my own heart who is not only a mother, a successful writer and TV show creator, and Dartmouth graduate, she is also an amazing writer and motivated the crap out of me to say yes to life and to new opportunities! She is a BAD ASS!


Ok off to the gym because I am LUCKY ENOUGH to get to exercise!


Stop Waiting Start Living!








  1. August 7, 2016 / 8:21 pm

    So True and I can’t say it loud enough!! I didn’t learn that until I was 36 and I have to say do it before you drag people down in it. If I had made the decisions much earlier many people wouldn’t have gotten hurt.

    • Harriet B.
      August 7, 2016 / 8:26 pm

      Thanks so much for reading and I’m so glad you have started to live life to the fullest

  2. August 7, 2016 / 10:06 pm

    I enjoyed the SUNDAY read, dated 08072016. There is much truth and inspiration in this article. There is no question, Harriet, you have experienced and learned much at a young age. I must confess and hope you are not upset that I did not identify myself in my first comment-reply. I am your third cousin. Yes, your dad is my second cousin. We live in Central PA…no, not Shamokin. My husband and I are touched by your honesty and realness. You truly are your dad’s daughter. We found you through our connection to your dad. You see, I have few close family members, as it was just myself and a sister who lives in the South. However, through marriage, I have much family…some who live not far from you. In fact, we must touch base with them today. So, on that note, continue to stay focused and keep the inspiring words coming. All of us need a kick in the butt, some times more than others. As for myself, I needed one these past few days!! Thank-you, Harriet.

    • Harriet B.
      August 7, 2016 / 10:39 pm

      Hi Cindy, no not mad at all, I think I have heard my dad talk about you before. Well I am so glad you like my blog and I know my dad loves PA and his family a lot. He definitely kicked my butt into high gear to be motivated to achieve a lot when I was younger but that’s just how he is, he’s my best friend. I definitely will continue to stay focused and hopefully produce inspiring content that can help motivate and encourage others. All the best, stay in touch! Harriet

  3. February 27, 2018 / 12:20 pm

    Beautifully said. So much inspiration here.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *